What do you want (out of life)?

Hello hello 🙂 What if the major question for you is “What do I actually want?” Because it is a problem to many of us. Just because I’m in NLP and reading these books …. it doesn’t mean that I can walk on water. I still find myself sinking into that water sometimes, getting off track. The only difference is that I know which tool I need to pick up to change that actual situation.

Many times I hear many people saying, I don’t know what I want in life… (career, relationship, anything). Let me tell you, I can relate to this, too.

Let’s start with one of the major areas in life. Career.

There were a few points in my life when I had the feeling what I wanted. First in college, a teacher of mine mentioned Life Coaching… I looked it up on the Internet, and I reacted: WHAAA, that’s what I want to do! that’s what I’m interested in! (before this, I always used to know only what I didn’t want 🙂 at least something..) So from then I was searching for courses and pricing… that finally turned me down…. I thought “What a pity.. It would have been just perfect for me..”

Then, a few years later, here in Aus I got a ticket to a Christopher Howard (life coach, business coach, master NLP trainer, public speaker, author) 3-day event (Breakthrough to Success), that was the perfect kick-off event for me!… I just didn’t know how to get started… those courses are really expensive and time consuming (beside my other obligations).

Then, another year later, I went to another event of him, and then there was the shift! Being together with many people for a 3 day event, you collect a few buddies. I received an advice from them, to start with only NLP first, find a course and do that only. (because I’m one of those people who like to do/get/accomplish everything at the same time immediately :D) So I said, “yes, I could do that, okay, I’m gonna leave every other part of the studies of this career for later, and I’ll start with NLP only, I’ll find an affordable NLP course”. AND THEN ALL OF A SUDDEN. Get this. Chris Howard and the other speaker Johnny 1-2 times a day handed out a set of course materials as gifts in the form of audio CDs or manuals to somebody from the crowd. When in the middle of their speech they start to flourish these things above their hand asking the audience who wants it badly…. everybody stands up and shouting “me me me” waving towards him… you can imagine appr. 200 people doing this… I was hoping to stand out from the crowd… So. Who do you think the person was who got the manual and the practitioner CDs from Johnny? and in the next round who got the master practitioner CD collection from Chris? 🙂 🙂 🙂 ………….. Yes, both times it was me!!! I almost cried. That was a real rising moment for me, and one of my happiest moments in life. I knew that it was time.. I don’t even have to tell you, my peers were astonished too 😀

So, what happened is, that I made up my mind, I committed myself to a way, I was ready, I knew clearly what I wanted. Then all the other things lined up instantly in my service. There is a basic rule (from Huna): Energy flows where attention goes.

By the way, later I enrolled myself into the QC Seminars NLP Practitioner course on a very good price 🙂

Let me just clarify why I’m using personal examples that much. It’s quite simple. Because I’m gonna speak only what I do/know/experienced, so it’s all authentic, tried, real, it’s all achievable and feasible.

So, how did I actually end up knowing my goal? hm, for many years I was away from it. Then when I got to the stage when I was ready for a shift (recovered from my breakup, found a suitable job), I changed the things (started dating again, rented out a single apartment for myself from my own money – after staying at parents), and after standing up from the floor, the things also started to change around me changing my situation (first I was made redundant, then my friend told me about the Australian life opportunity..).

I was just following my interest. When I accepted that free ticket to the C H event.. I did it because I wanted to be there, I was so intrigued to see a Life Coach on stage. Then I ended up with people around me who gave me constructive advice, pointing to my goal. Then I committed myself, got a clearer picture.. Got that? What was the very first step? The interest, and then I followed my heart, my calling.

We are looking for that “purpose” in all age ranges, from young to older. But have you ever sat down with a pen and paper to design your “tomorrow”? We are not taught to do so. We were taught to follow the same lifestyle that everybody else lives, some of us were less fortunate and got their ways already designed by others.

So. How to get a clear picture of what you want (in career, in relationship, anything).  Write out all those things that interest you. If it’s about career, what are those productive things that you do (or used to do, maybe in childhood) with enthusiasm, passion, curiosity? That would make you feel happy and fulfilled to continue doing? Be honest with yourself. Give yourself a comfortable 30 minutes. Because the real stuff need some time to come out of your unconscious mind, that you buried there long ago. It’s gonna be a realization process, so take your time, with no disruption. Some of you might need less time. When you find those desired goals, start writing them out as detailed as you can. It’s important. And we’ll continue from here, and discuss what to do with the list.

So, get a big inhale, and start writing your answer for the main question of your life. see you soon 🙂

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